hey friends! ohayo! (good morning!)
its the last day of the weekdays and i still have a lot to do at the office. first and foremost, i am tasked to go to our head office and personally bring some documents to be signed by our director. the problem is, i have never been there! i have never set foot on our head office! not once! not ever. ^.^;;
im torn between going alone and bringing someone who knows the place. i can go alone and just ask around once im there but im really a shy person, and a little less self-confident. ^__^;; and im afraid i might get lost! LOL our office is located on the third floor of a building and they say there arent elevators (which i doubt) and im worried i might not find the stairs and get lost! LOL
i can bring somebody but i still dont know if anyone is available and im worried they might think im so dumb. ^__^;;
its nearly 8 in the morning and i still havent decided. ^__^;;
so what do you do in times like these?
[question posted by secretbear]
responses and comments:
Hi there You can do it alone. Take each step as it comes, hold your head up high and put on an act. Never show people your weakness as that gives them one over on you (if they ever want to use it that is). Take your time, take deep breathes and you will be surprised at how easy you find it. I know you can do it just by seeing your confidence in starting and responding yo discussions on mylot. Good luck and I will be with you. Denise [kneeshka123]
thanks maria. ^__^ [secretbear]
i've done and do both. For me it's whatever I'm feeling like at the time. Sometimes I'd rather just be alone. Other times I'd rather have someone to go with me. It really all depends on my mood that day. I'm not a shy person. I do hate to be lost though. But I'm pretty good at finding my way around. So I'm pretty good with going alone if I have to. If you can find someone..take them. [raychill]
i know. sometimes i do my best to fight the shyness. that's during dire times when i cant do anything but to ask someone. LOL sometimes when i drunk i forget all my shyness. ^__^;; when im with a friend im not that shy though. they give me courage. ^__^ [secretbear]
ha ha ...this is INTERESTING!!!! if I were you, I'd go alone! I'd get the correct address 1st. 2nd, know the person who i want to meet. 3rd, what i want to say. 4th, i go - this is as adventurous as going into the jungle for the very first time except of course jungle is more DANGEROUS, like me.....^__^ good luck little baby bear dear!!!! [singlepixel]
thanks single. that's very nice of you. ^__^ [secretbear]
Whenever I go to a new place, I asked around. There are times when there is no one to accompany me and act as tour guide. When somebody can accompany me and show me around, I relax. [everlasting]
the bad thing with me when im with someone is i tend to depend on that person and i tend to forget which directions we are taking. LOL i end up still not knowing the place and still wouldnt be able to go there alone. ^__^;; [secretbear]
Well Secretbear, apart from the fact that i am not shy and very self-confident I would do it on my own. I will feel excited too, so go on and do it alone dear. It will help you gain self-confidence, and while onyour way to there, keep telling you self the following mantra: I feel great today, and am having a great time while on my way to encounter my boss. Will meet all new people and make new friends :) Good luck dea and have a blessed day! TheFortunes [thefortunes]
thanks thefortunes. ^__^ i dont know if i gained a little self-confidence. all i know is i know now how to get to our head office and i've met our director's secretary which i always talk with over the phone. ^__^ [secretbear]
Hello secretbear I would bring someone if available, it never hurts to have some support. Very good luck to you and good wishes. I would come with you if I were there gladly. [TheHairDresser]
hi there rozann! that's really very thoughtful of you. i would haeve gladly taken one of you guys if i could. ^__^ i went alone anyway. ^__^;; there was no one available that i could take with me and i was really in a hurry so i had no choice but to go alone. good thing i was able to use our service vehicle. i didnt had to commute and i only had to find the director's office. i hated going on alone in the elevator though. ^__^;; [secretbear]
Try to find someone who can go with you. But i believe you can go there alone. You can ask your director or officemates for directions. I'm sure they know how to go there. ;-) [sampip]
ask my director??? are you kidding me?? LOL i can ask some of our division chiefs but not our director. ^__^;; [secretbear]
If there is someone around to show you where it is, fine just go with that person... but if not body is around go and find out by yourself... what is the worse thing can happen to you? get lost and look for help... so do not worry, and do what you have to do... At least you are not going to another country, where nobady speak your languaje!! [terrych]
Yes, just go ahead and do what you have to, and try to no depend on nobody else! [terrych]
You shall go alone.pay attention to the information on the wall.i always do that.if you really feel that you get lost,ask someone around.Don't be shy.it is better to have somebody helps you than have yourself twirling around. hope you've found out the way which is most suitable for you. [kuer86]
thank you very much kuer for your concern. ^__^ [secretbear]
I'll probably look around for someone who is available and if they are kind enough to accompany me to go there. If no one's free then I have no choice but to go alone. Don't worry, even if you go by yourself, you'll be fine! I'm sure that the person who's going to direct you to the director's office won't bite and will be helpful. hope you'll be ok there, good luck ;) [kevsgirlalways]
LOL the guard surely didnt bite me. ^__^;; they were clear in giving directions so i easily found the director's office. i went alone coz no one was available but i was okay. there arent any foreign speaking people there anyway. LOL and no alligators that bite. LOL [secretbear]
I have worked at jobs where I have been sent to different unfamiliar places, so I know your feeling very well. Whenever possible, I would go alone to the place ahead of time and check it out. I did this alone, since it was work I was assigned to do. Often the work was of a confidential natural, so it would not have done to rely on others. But I would have died of embarrassment if I represented my employer by showing up late and confused for my assignment. That is probably why they chose me to go in the first place. Surprises are not my idea of fun. [drannhh]
oh you're already retired? good for you! now i'm sure you're having fun. ^__^ my mother who is 62 wants to retire too but she can't because we still need her income. she's only going to retire when she turns 65. oh yes. I'm already comfortable going to our head office. thanks drannhh. ^__^ [secretbear]
if i'm in good mood, then i will go alone, and ask around in the new place. it is a good habit to go alone to new places. first, you can know how to communicate with strangers. second, you can be more independent. but dont' believe in everyone easily. if i'm very tired or i have few time to do something in a new place, then i must find a person who is familiar with the new place. if i'm tired, then i have no good mood to find the place, and i hate asking around in the new place. then the person can give you a guide, then you can save much time and you can have a good mood, too. [wonderful1]
it did give me a good mood when i successfully went there alone and finished my task smoothly. ^__^ but it didnt make me a little dependent. because i took the office's service vehicle and i had a driver with me. LOL [secretbear]
I think you should ask around. You will not be lost if you ask someone. I am sure there are kind people around that are willing to help you. I was like that before, but i noticed i will not learned if i will have someone who always accompany me. You should atleast be independent sometimes and I am sure you can do it. [grecychunny26]
guess who was the friendly man to give me the direction?? the security guard! LOL take care grecy! ^__^ [secretbear]
Hi secretbear, so glad that u managed to find your head office without breaking a sweat :) Be more confident and imagine yourself to be one of them working in the head office, in this way, u will feel better and less shy to ask ;) U wun be lost as long as their are friendly ple around.. LOL [kun2349]
haha.. that's good ;) [kun2349]
By the time that you read this... i hope you went there alone... the only way to overcome your shyness and to develop your self confidence is to frequently do things on your own especially when it entails mingling or talking to people... as they say... the only way to overcome fear is to face it... [aseretdd]
hi aseretdd! ^__^ i did go on my own. but i had to take the office's service vehicle and a driver with me. ^__^;; but i sure can go there now without batting an eyelash. LOL [secretbear]
I usually bring along my favorite companion -- (he's my bf)-- but now I'm thinking that I want to go to some place on my own. Well, I just want to experience how is it to be alone and be able to explore places by talking to strangers and making new friends along the way. I think that would really be exciting. [michecu]
wow. i hope i have a favorite companion too. and a bf too! ^__^;; [secretbear]
well it depends if you are just going on a trip or to tour around. i would gladly be with someone who knoes the place around. when i worked at japan (that was twice) and that was two different places. one at koenji and the other at kawasaki. since i am a solo singer then i went there alone. though there are a lot of filipina who works at the same place i do butthey are all asleep when i woke up. so i try to walk around and get familiar with every street and of course every shopping mall there is. [roniroxas]
I have always loved adventure and I have been to places which I have never visited before and found my experiences very enlightening. Don't worry that you will get lost, because it is normal. You just have to take courage and go there all by yourself...well, as long as its not a dangerous place to be around. [cdparazo]
it proved to be not a dangerous place. and it was day anyway so it wasnt really scary and all. ^__^ [secretbear]
hi bear bear, haven't been around lately, i don't know if you noticed. hehehe! if i can't have someone to come with me, i have to go alone. it's a challenge too, you become more assertive, and confident because you have no one to back you up lol! but if it's a place like for adventure or fun it's nice to have a good company, to share your ignorance, lol i mean your excitement with someone. this is all for now. got to go bear bear, miss na kita, fwen! [jdpartosa]
i did notice this time of our myLot life that you werent around much. i think i have posted something somewhere asking you about that. ^__^ and i guessed it was the exams or the sembreak. anyway, if its a beach im going to or a new mall, i prefer to have a friend with me. yeah, so we can share the ignorance. LOL but i did go alone to our head office. ^__^ now i go there as if they were our neighbors. ^__^ [secretbear]
Hello! For me it depends on the situation. I've done both. Before, I used to be a shy person, I don't like the idea of going to any unfamiliar place alone, i'd rather go with someone who knows the place and feel safe. But as I grow up i've realize that I can't always depend on anybody, I only have myself to rely on and nothing else. In order for me to build self-confidence and not be scared of the outside world i've decided to do it alone. At first it was a funny feeling, there were times that I even felt like crying but I got thru it. It is actually scary at first but after you've done it you'll feel very proud of yourself, it's like you've achieved something. My father told me one good advice that really gave me a boost: Don't be afraid to go alone and venture in unfamiliar places for as long as you know how to read and talk, you'll be okay. Talk and ask around and read the directions that's the most important thing. I'm glad you did it alone. Nice feeling no? *smile* take care. Well done to you! ciao! c",) [fab315]
nice feeling indeed. nice because i made use of my tongue and my reading abilities and my ability to ride an elevator. LOL seriously, i was glad to have finished the task and went there alone. now i go there as if they were our next door neighbors. ^__^ thanks fab. ^__^ [secretbear]
hi, there...you can phone your friends to ask about that new place...then your friends will tell you. or before you go you can get there map.. so you wont get lost..hehe.. [Hawaiiblue]
before I went out I asked my officemates first for directions. I was just thankful that those were clear directions. LOL I got there without losing my way. ^__^ I didn't really need a map. it was easy to find. especially that I had our own service vehicle. LOL [secretbear]
Im a shy person too.But when I go out,I will ask somebody because i dont want to lost.I hate to do that but i must do if i dont want to lost.Hope you will brave to go out alone. [hassanah]
I feel you hassanah. ^__^ i'm also a bit shy and I hate asking questions from strangers at the same time. but we don't really have a choice when the situation calls it. ^__^;; anyway, I was able to go there alone. it was easy to find after all. ^__^ [secretbear]
Id prefer to go new place with someone who is familiar to the place so that it would be easy for me to go wherever i want.And its also safe if u have someone accompany u who knows the place well.just to avoid lost in place. [jackxav]
I would have preferred to go with someone but no one was available. it would have been nice if I was with someone which I can talk to while waiting or while going there, talking lessens nervousness. ^__^;; I did go alone though. and got back safely. ^__^ [secretbear]
In going to a new place, my preference is going to it with someone. Either my companion is familiar with the place or not, it is better to be with someone in going to any place. First, it is for safety matters. Add to that, it is a lot more fun! But I also don't mind when I have to go to a certain place by myself, I am okay with that too. When this kind of instance arises that I have to be by myself, I make preparations for it like in knowing where to go, stuff like that. [MariaD]
yeah! I would feel safer if I were with someone, either who knows the place or not. if the person knows the place, then better. if not, then it's okay. at least there's the two of us who will get lost. LOL [secretbear]
in our family, i'm the one they rely on when going to a new place... i'm not shy to ask around, but i choose whom to ask... you know how some filipinos are... they sometimes give you directions although they don't have a clue where the place is... i experienced that... [sharonercastillo]
yeah! I know what you mean! i've experienced that too. what's worst is they give you the wrong directions. ^.^;; and you get lost even more. I also choose who to ask, I usually ask cops or security guards. ^__^ [secretbear]
Ohayo gozaimasu Secret I usually go to places alone. I'm fine with it. From time to time I'll invite a person or group, but I'm perfectly fine going to new places alone. [theprogamer]
I would rather choose of going someone who are very familiar of the place. It saves time and effort. Than wandering on a unfamiliar place alone. It is risky and dangerous. I will not put my life on that situation. I will choose the best option. [izathewzia]
I would feel uncomfortable with this situation too but I would still go and find that office on my own........ simply looks better than bringing someone with me. [book1962]
I telephone the reception desk at the building I am visiting and ask them to e mail me directions from the reception desk to the office I need to find. You might find it helpful to find the locations of all the offices you may have to go and mark them on a street map, putting telephone contact numbers onto the back of the map so that you never have this horrible situation again. Did you find the office without too many difficulties? [shelagh77]
oh i hope you found a solution for this...usually i tend to go to places alone even if iim a bit shy too sometimes...but i find no problem in asking for info...what happens usually is that people cant (or dont want to)help me :p [valyushah]
Moshi Moshi! You can do it. Its okay to ask if you don't know rather than pretending that you know. Goodluck! [vonn1378]
i would love to take a try with myself alone.. i just want to challenge myself if i can live in a place where i am a total stranger to the place and to the people as well.. i will just make sure that i have money then so i can support myself for food and shelter.. im so dependent with the people around me so better try to go to a place no one knows me.. that must be a lot of adventure, huh?! [leizlmarie]
i would go with my instinct. sometimes it's nice to have someone with you when your not really familiar with the place and if you really have some urgent things that needs to be followed up. but if you have the luxury to explore the place, going alone to a certain place is quite good. you'll discover things all by yourself. cheers! [makaira]