If you decided to take a trip, did you let someone know that you were leaving? Did you just walk out without telling anyone?
[question posted by cream97]
responses and comments:
i just prefer to tell my family. but one day i would like to do that. Put on one of my hair wigs and just be totally anonymous! [karmendra]
Whenever my husband and I take a trip I don't feel I need to tell my parents. but once we went on a weekend trip and I came home to 20 voice messages on my answering machine. She was practically yelling on the phone that I did not tell her I was going for the weekend. I did not think I should since I don't have to report to her about my whereabout. [ch88ss]
I like to say that is the case, but in my mom's case. it is control issue. She just want to know where and who I am with. Even though I was married. if i told her I was with a friend, at the mall (for example) she wants to know the name of the person, how I got to the mall, why am I at the mall, what do I need to buy, and why did I go to the mall with this friend, and where did I meeet this friend, what is the friend background, how many siblings do they have, what language do they speak, are they married, single, etc. and the list can go on forever. so on the weekends i just tell them I am going out of town. And she will say "no you can't I need you to come over, and it could be as simple as - I need you to take me to the store to buy some thing. Keep in mind she drives. So I don't know about this. [ch88ss]
hi cream, do you mean immediate family like spouse or parents or extended family like aunt, uncle etc. My husband would of course know my whereabouts and so would my aged mom and one of my aunts as that aunt lives in one house with my mother. The extended family on my side may not know, I would not inform everyone of them about my plans but maybe write a card if I were away on vacations. The family of my husband(mom and siblings) would not know not because I treat them different from my family where I grew up but because values in his family are different. Apart from my MIL no one would really be interested in my whereabouts and so why bother and tell them. [book1962]
I have not tried having a trip without informing my family..I don't have the guts and for sure I will not enjoy fully wherever I go. No peace of mind for me and I admire those who have the guts in doing that! Maybe should just find a surrogate to take my place! [checapricorn]
I dont think I have I usually tell at least one person where I am going and when i will be back In case something happens and someone needs to get ahold of me [zukepr]
I think I can't just leave without saying any goodbye. I would be worrying about my family too much. Although I know peoples that can do that and they do. I mean, I have boundaries. I don't know know all of my kids medical transcription info. [Zergonipal]
I´m 63 years old, live alone but I would never dream of just "walking out". LOL My daughters would be as worried (and then furius) if I did such a thing as I would if they did that to me. WE have strong family ties and we need to know everyone in the family is safe. Besides, I don´t think I could do that for another reson. I love to share what I´m doing. Part of the fun of traveling for me is to tell "everibody" where I´m going, what I´m planning to do and so on. And, by the way, as you are my friends here, I can tell toy that I´m trying to earn enough money to pay for an airfare to Aruba in September. Care to join me? Take care [atacamaval]
I will usually just tell one person that way if it is a real emergence they can get in touch with me. Otherwise I don't like to be bothered. [carpenter81]
No, and I never would do something like that. What if something were to happen to me, they would not know where to look for me at. [jer31558]
yes many a times i infrom every one. But when i am travelling to a place its far away and i am sure that my mom will say no to go their, Then i dont infrom them. I bring some gift from their and then i inform them. My friend infrom every thing to every one so if their is any emergency every one is ready. Even I think we should infrom them because any thing can happen any time. She even told everyone she knew (friends included) about La Quinceanera. enjoy :) [yogeshdhusa]
No, I have never done that. But recently my daughter did. And I must tell you I did not like that at all. Do not get me wrong. I have no issues about her going somewhere, but at least tell me that you are leaving town so I know if or when I have to reach You in some way. It can be but it probably do not matter, but if something for some reason happen in the family that needs to be told to her it is god if she tells me that she is out of town. It´s for me about respect for the family. [anetteh]
Hello my friend cream97 Ji, I have never done so, I inform every one at all ends. Even, if I go for some work in city for two three hrs, my wife would be knowing, where i woiuld be at particular time. She would contact me in that shop, as I never any of those popular unlocked cellular phones. I amk emy schedule much in advance to avoid last moment hussle and tussle. have anice time. [chintoo07]
Hi cream97! No, I haven't done that. Everytime I travel I always tell the whole family about it especially if I will be away for a long time. My grandmother and father will be hurt if I wouldn't kiss them goodbye. Take care and God bless! happy [faith210]
I never leave without telling my relatives where will I go.It is for Safety and also so that they will not get worried [asawanialvin0611]
It depends on the lenght of the trip. If I was going on a trip for several hours I would not tell anyone, if the trip were going to last all day or more I probably would. I don't tend to go away for long periods of time because I have a Dog to take care of and he doesnt appreciate my abscence. [snowy22315]
The first time I flew to Phoenix, I did so without informing a single person at home. I knew they would protest or try to stop me. so I just didn't tell anyone. Mind you I was liing in my own apartment at the time so it's not like I was walking out on anyone, but I still didn't tell anyone until I got there, at which point I phoned home to tell them where I had gone. [danishcanadian]
Telling others,that too our neighbours while going on tour is better.Because,when we are out anything may go wrong or some incedent or accident may take place,or any correspondence or relative may come.Anything will occur,so its better to inform our neighbourer. [chinnu3579]
I usually tell my family before I go off traveling. When I was 20 I went around the world and was in Cairns the day before I was booked to fly to Darwin. My friend told me that if I worked a bit longer I could afford to go back to Sydney. So I rang the airline and told them to cancel my reservation. I rang my mum a few days later and she was surprised to hear that I was still in Cairns. Six weeks later I took a train to Brisbane and eventually I got back to Sydney, my favorite city. [maximax8]
Feeling like you want to escape? [gitfiddleplayer]
for short trips, I dont inform my familes as we dont live together and we dont talk on the phone everyday, if more than a week, I would tell one of my families so that they know where I am, they wouldnt worry abt me when they cant reach me (ie. when cellphones dont work). But I told my families that I *might* *disappear* someday, go to some very remote area for years or maybe the rest of my life just enjoy some peace :-) [snowxue]
yes i did this 5 years ago, i traveled 2 days and 2 nights in a bus. my parents didn't know about my planned because i was invited by my girl friend to went on their place. when i arrived i called my mom and said that i went to my girl friend's place. she get mad at me but later she understand. [julyteen]
i never tell anyone if i am leaving and im hiding my way. [patzel88]
I usually inform my mom where I am going. We live right next door so she would know if I had left for a weekend or so. Besides I have fish that have to be fed if I go out of town so I have to ask her to take care of them while I am away. So no sneaking out of town for me. I don't tell the rest of my family though. [travibabiesgirl]
i tried but my mo got angry with me because i left home with no one knows about it. i love to travel specially to the province and saw different mountains. mountain is the best place for me to feel relax. i have lots of travels in the past, almost all region of our country i reached already. [julyteen]
Once when I was younger, I went on a trip with some friends to some province. I was mad and just had the biggest fight ever with my dad,so i left without telling anybody in the family. But, since i don't want him to worry, i left a note on his desk on where i was going and who am I with and when tentatively am I going home.. [eihdra]
happyThere have been so many times this has crossed my mind . Just leave and not look back . On stressful days I just wanna run away to nyc , or a beach somewhere . In the past I have left for the day and told noone . My fiance and me when we first met we went on a long rd trip , and i didnt tell people where i was going from state to state . Oh , those were the days happy [metschica25]
Hi cream97, i wish i will do that one day later, hehe :p This really need a lot of courage to make such decision. I think maybe i'm the kind of person who like to inform peole what am i going to do next, so that they manage to trace back what is going on in case anything happen, haha :p [just12blog]
I've done that few times although not recently... Last time I've done that was over 8 years ago, before my daughter was born... My ex & I were fighting a lot at the time & I just took off one morning without telling anyone... My mohter & sister are used to it & they know I'll contact them if I need to... I was gone for about 2 weeks without contacting anybody in my family... Now that I have a family of my own, sometimes we take off without contacting each other's parents or family members... But we never have gone anywhere without telling each other... For past 4 years my girl friend & I've been living together, I don't think we've ever gone anywhere without the other... Other than working, we're constantly together... [sk66rc]
lol if i was missing for more than a day with out some one knowing they would have the state searching for me lol, we are a very close family so i we all know if any one of us 5 Kids and our families are going away ITS THE LAW lol in my family.. hugssssssssssssshappy [shelly43]